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Thankful Thursday

Maybe it’s the cold, gloomy weather we’ve been having or the overflowing plate of responsibilities, or just my low-grade depression rising to the surface, but I’ve been in a dark place. I’m working on seeing the positive, letting the glimpse of light in.

So , today, I offer you someone else’s words…

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
Willie Nelson

Find the positive. Grab it and hold tight.


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Help for Hump Day: Embark on a cleanse

Many changes in my personal life have reflected the changes I need to make in my long-term goals. I’m a planner, a list maker, a control freak, if I’m being honest.  I do not react well to others’ spontaneous decisions or a wrench thrown in my carefully mapped out plans. But, life doesn’t come with a map, rather a rough draft of right and left turns, with disappearing ink.

So, from time to time, I need to take stock and reevaluate my destination and plans for getting there.

Once again, I’m doing a cleanse. In the hypothetical sense.

Scrape and Dump the toxic people from my present life and past memories

Eliminate outside influences that are selfish and draining

Do more of what makes me happy: chick flicks, after dinner walks, lounging with the kids, reading novels and working on my novel revisions

Clear out paper stacks everywhere: Lesson plan ideas, articles on building better characters, writer’s guidelines, bios of agents and contest judges

Be a simple, silly, sassy girl again: lighten up! sing out loud! write really bad poetry and break all the rules. In fact, stop reading so many “helpful” blogs, magazines, sites and links. It’s becoming brain clutter!

Cancel all subscriptions. When I want to know, I’ll Google it.

Back to center. Start journaling more, moving more, breathing deeper, cleaner.

Break the mold, be weird. So what if others don’t get it. Stop trying to be a second-rate someone else and be the best me I can be. Remember the red polka dot pants. Wear them proudly!

Share information because I feel like helping, not because I feel obligated or want someone to like me/accept me, give me a gold star or a sparkling testimony. I’m a people pleaser to my own detriment.

Remember the children! Mine, especially. My boys, the reason I breathe, the inspiration for this list. Preserve my true authentic self: she is who *they love. (*they  includes the few young students who light up when in my workshops.)

How will you cleanse today? Any baggage you need to confront and toss out to the curb? Read baggage however it applies to you.


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Help for Hump Day – Don’t Quit

While ironing the other night I overheard a TV interview highlight with Former President Bill Clinton as he said: “When you get knocked down, don’t give up, Get UP!”

Now, you have to understand I despise ironing. Seriously. My clothes have to be balled up and riddled with semi-permanent creases to warrant me getting out the big ol’ ironing board and setting it up in my living room. Distractions in the form of TV is what gets me through this task. Any mundane show or even monotonous commercial will do. But when I heard Bill Clinton’s quote, I felt a kinship, a glow of enlightenment, which definitely made my ironing chore a pleasurable and philosophical moment. And got me thinking about my own family’s motto: NEVER GIVE UP!

My husband and I have ingrained this mentality in our boys. When learning to ride a two-wheeler: Never Give UP! When struggling with a homework assignment: Never Give Up! When trying to make first chair as the snare drummer for band: Never Give UP!

Although, it’s more than a phrase, but a lifestyle. If we tell ourselves “I can’t,” than, guess what? You won’t! Words without action is fruitless. The belief has to be there, but you also must take little steps to move forward, to have momentum on your life’s path.

So, after you’ve chanted with me:

Never Give UP!

Never Give UP!

Never Give UP!

Get to work. What are you working on today? Me? Reading and revising Chapter 4 of my novel. Little step, but still moving forward.

Don’t Quit


When things go wrong as they sometimes will.

When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill.

When funds are low and the debts are high.

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns.

As everyone of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about.

When he might have won had he stuck it out:

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out –

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems so far:

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

~Author Unknown


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