Are Old Fears Dragging You Down?
Guest Post by Mari McCarthy (Don’t forget to enter the ebook giveaway @ bottom of post!)
It’s the human condition to experience fear every now and then. No one is entirely immune to it. Part of growing up is learning how to handle your fears.
A friend observed the other day that people seem to be inexplicably drawn to challenging situations, circumstances that will force us to change and grow. It’s easy to build a cozy cocoon of our daily routines, but the time for metamorphosis comes around sooner or later. And often, you find yourself facing the very thing you hoped to avoid forever.
The challenges that beckon us can bring us face to face with old fears. It’s as if the growth is directly aimed at making us resolve these ancient terrors, so we can progress in life. Our fears are barriers, keeping us from becoming what we naturally wish to be.
A highly effective tool for making your old fears disappear is journaling. Try the following process.
- Set aside a notebook that is dedicated to journaling about your fears. Write in it regularly.
- Make a list of everything you are afraid of.
- Identify several childhood fears that you had. Have you overcome any of these? How were you able to erase your fear?
- Write about the sensation of fear, how it feels in your body, what it might look like if it had a tangible form.
- Write in detail about the conditions present when you experience fear in your current life. Describe the external circumstances as well as the sequence of your thoughts.
Now return to the list of all your current fears and work through them in whatever order you wish.
- where you are when this fear arises
- what happens in your body when you feel it
- your response to the fear
- the value of this fear to you (don’t forget that some fear is good; it protects us from harm)
- and end with an observation (or two) about your fear at this point
As with all journaling, don’t neglect the important step of reviewing previous entries after some time has passed. It is when you look back on the past that your journey is revealed.
Finally, notice that the journal writing therapy prescribed here makes no demands on you to change. It is important not to feel pressured about changing. Know that you are journaling to record, to illustrate, to discuss; but not to achieve anything.
Let the change come of its own accord as you continue to observe and write.
By Mari L. McCarthy – The Journaling Therapy Specialist, founder of Journaling for the Health of It™. Please visit Mari’s blog at CreateWriteNow. In Who Are You? How to Use Journaling Therapy to Know and Grow Your Life, Mari presents a gentle process for self discovery through journaling. Mari’s latest publication is titled, Your Money Matters! Use Journal Writing Therapy to Get Financially Fit Now.
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