Are Old Fears Dragging You Down? (Guest post & Giveaway!)

Are Old Fears Dragging You Down?

Guest Post by Mari McCarthy (Don’t forget to enter the ebook giveaway @ bottom of post!)

It’s the human condition to experience fear every now and then. No one is entirely immune to it. Part of growing up is learning how to handle your fears.

A friend observed the other day that people seem to be inexplicably drawn to challenging situations, circumstances that will force us to change and grow. It’s easy to build a cozy cocoon of our daily routines, but the time for metamorphosis comes around sooner or later. And often, you find yourself facing the very thing you hoped to avoid forever.

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The challenges that beckon us can bring us face to face with old fears. It’s as if the growth is directly aimed at making us resolve these ancient terrors, so we can progress in life. Our fears are barriers, keeping us from becoming what we naturally wish to be.

A highly effective tool for making your old fears disappear is journaling. Try the following process.

  1. Set aside a notebook that is dedicated to journaling about your fears. Write in it regularly.
  2. Make a list of everything you are afraid of.
  3. Identify several childhood fears that you had. Have you overcome any of these? How were you able to erase your fear?
  4. Write about the sensation of fear, how it feels in your body, what it might look like if it had a tangible form.
  5. Write in detail about the conditions present when you experience fear in your current life. Describe the external circumstances as well as the sequence of your thoughts.

Now return to the list of all your current fears and work through them in whatever order you wish.

Write about:

  1. where you are when this fear arises
  2. what happens in your body when you feel it
  3. your response to the fear
  4. the value of this fear to you (don’t forget that some fear is good; it protects us from harm)
  5. and end with an observation (or two) about your fear at this point

As with all journaling, don’t neglect the important step of reviewing previous entries after some time has passed. It is when you look back on the past that your journey is revealed.

Finally, notice that the journal writing therapy prescribed here makes no demands on you to change. It is important not to feel pressured about changing. Know that you are journaling to record, to illustrate, to discuss; but not to achieve anything.

Let the change come of its own accord as you continue to observe and write.


Mari McCarthy

 By Mari L. McCarthy – The Journaling Therapy Specialist, founder of Journaling for the Health of It™.  Please visit Mari’s blog at CreateWriteNow. In Who Are You? How to Use Journaling Therapy to Know and Grow Your Life, Mari presents a gentle process for self discovery through journaling. Mari’s latest publication is titled, Your Money Matters! Use Journal Writing Therapy to Get Financially Fit Now.

Enter to win! By leaving a comment or question on today’s post, you are entered to win a copy of Mari’s ebook: Who Are You? How to Use Journaling Therapy to Know and Grow Your Life. I use to select a winner – posted tomorrow, Wed., Aug. 31)


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8 responses to “Are Old Fears Dragging You Down? (Guest post & Giveaway!)

  1. Hi, Mari! Your exercise for looking at fears appeals to me. I have written journals since I was a little girl. Never thought about systematically writing about fears in the way you describe. I will give it a try. (I’ve written about fears I have/had, but not to actually look at them, if you know what I mean.)
    Thanks for hosting, Mari, Mary Jo!

    • Hi Linda,
      Yes, Journaling offers all kinds of opportunities to explore waaaay deep down inside and discover our treasures that our fears have been covering up all these years. We can dialogue, dance, do whatever creative problem solving activities we’d like with our Journal Therapist. And together we can create and experience being the healthy fear free woman we want to be. WriteON!

  2. Hi Mari and MJ,
    I journal when I get confused or perplexed about something in my life and I definitely am aware of my fears…but I loved “but not to achieve anything.” Wow, what a terrific fear-buster! Thanks.

  3. Thanks for these tips… I think often we are afraid of success as much as failure…

  4. Hi Mary Jo! Thank you for hosting me again. WriteON!

  5. Beth

    I would like to consider myself courageous and fearless however, I have come to realize that I mislabel some emotions as anxiety, frustration etc, when the root cause is really fear…fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of failure etc. I like the idea of this exercise to explore what I am really afraid of.

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